Loser In Your 30s? Do This Exercise


Now that I’m in my thirties, it makes sense to comment on anyone out there who feels like a loser in life. To escape your loser world, check out the thought exercise at the bottom.


There is just one reason why you feel like a loser in your thirties: mindset.

That’s it, I rest my case, meeting adjourned.

Let’s go into more detail here.

You are a loser because perhaps you were fired from a job and you’re feeling low. MINDSET.

You are a loser because your wife divorced you and you feel alone. MINDSET.

You are a loser because you appear fat in the mirror and you feel low-energy or depressed. MINDSET.

Your reactions to outside circumstances are completely under your control! Great, you can finally look for that better job, better wife, and better body.

Shift the thoughts going through your head.

Now I’m not a shining example for what to do. In all honesty, I’ve gone through much of the despair and existential angst other thirtysomething losers are dealing with.

This is why I’m reaching out to say your suffering all boils down to MINDSET.

Don’t believe me? Let’s take a look at the people of Africa. Ever wonder why they appear so happy when they’re in extreme poverty without an antidepressant in sight?

Could it be the sunlight? (Likely not, because how do you explain California)

No, these people are living with a positive mindset, and they surround themselves with others who share a similar outlook.

You’re likely alone, suffering away, not really paying attention to the fact that billions of others have it harder than you every single day.

Let’s get you out of “Loser World”. Do the following thought exercise when you have time:

Sit with your thoughts for 1-2 hours. Think of this question:

What do you really want to achieve?

Don’t know the answer? Sit a little longer.

Really take some time to assess what would make you a winner.

Write down what comes to mind.

Break down your top three nagging dreams into bite-sized goals.

What’s stopping you from taking those first steps?

Excellent. You’ve now constructed what I call “Winner World”. This is your idealized self, awaiting your initiative. It is a complete reflection of who you are and who you could become. It is free of comparison, free of envy. This is your world, and one that keeps you up at night while waking you in the morning.

What if you’re in your twenties or fifties?

I think this little thought exercise has no age boundaries. Given that I’m living my thirties right now, grinding away on life’s dreams, I find it’s always a good time to reflect on where you are and where you ought to be going, regardless of age.

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